We GROW in ESTEEMthrough a PRACTICE of FEELING
expressed, heard, understood
using DEESC
a self asserting COMMUNICATING tool.
RED BELT ASSERTIVENESS DO GROUP
We GROW in ESTEEMthrough a PRACTICE of FEELING
expressed, heard, understood
using DEESC
a self asserting COMMUNICATING tool.
NOW give UP what you HOLD MOST DEAR
WHAT is the thing... the belief... the fear... the guilt... (the 'X' if you like)...
that you're convinced you CAN'T live without?
that you HOLD most dearly?
that is IN EFFECT a self-limiting belief
at the subconscious level of the mind,
where nearly all human behaviour originates,
both constructive and destructive!!!
that has you CHOOSE PASSIVE as NORMAL
and ASSERTIVE as threatening, Dangerous?
That you must now give up?
that you're convinced you CAN'T live without?
that you HOLD most dearly?
that is IN EFFECT a self-limiting belief
at the subconscious level of the mind,
where nearly all human behaviour originates,
both constructive and destructive!!!
that has you CHOOSE PASSIVE as NORMAL
and ASSERTIVE as threatening, Dangerous?
That you must now give up?
How to use DEESC to turn the tables on Behavioural Interviews into your Favor
Behavioural Interviews are different and designed to evoke and provoke specific BEHAVIOUR the interviewer wants to ASSESS in the interviewee in REAL time.
Most practice the interview to 'survive' the ordeal but fail to notice that with the right kind of practice they can turn the tables on the behavioural interview and leverage it instead.
This person will be remembered because they stood out for the right reasons.
Its one thing to ask a person how they handled themselves in a conflict in the past and quite another to have the interviewer deliberately press the buttons to elicit the exact kind of behaviours they want to see an interviewee deal with in real time in a pressure situation.
Most practice the interview to 'survive' the ordeal but fail to notice that with the right kind of practice they can turn the tables on the behavioural interview and leverage it instead.
This person will be remembered because they stood out for the right reasons.
ASKING
How difficult is it for you to ask.
Not everyone has difficulty asking but there are those for who "having to ask" is seriously disempowering. I count myself in this group so I know first hand the enormous COST this can be. It is to this person I suggest to take a little time and reflect back over your life and think of the times where to ask feels most uncomfortable.
To what EXTENT is overcoming the EXPERIENCE of having to ask as something that is so disempowering IMPORTANT?
Not everyone has difficulty asking but there are those for who "having to ask" is seriously disempowering. I count myself in this group so I know first hand the enormous COST this can be. It is to this person I suggest to take a little time and reflect back over your life and think of the times where to ask feels most uncomfortable.
To what EXTENT is overcoming the EXPERIENCE of having to ask as something that is so disempowering IMPORTANT?
I am a woman and I am angry
"...I am a time stretched woman struggling to keep up with hectic schedules looking for a way to reduce rage BEFORE it gets out of control..." apparently is becoming increasingly common.
More women it appears are surprised to learn they are angry. The article cited that the number of women being prosecuted for domestic violence has risen by 10 percent in the past 10 year. It also suggested that it was due to the increasing amount of pressure that was piled onto them today.
Are women overextended? Well perhaps more to the point are you feeling overextended.. to the point you are so busy you don't even have the time to check in on yourself... which can be a big cause of pent-up anger and frustration.. and before you know it the slightest thing sets you off... and you let fly this outburst... that is inappropriate... and catches your child or your partner completely by surprise... that makes you feel even worse because it is not seen as feminine but as something men do.
Some blame it on the increase in violence on TV... which is possible.. however there are effective ways to communicate that you are upset.. and that you understand this is the straw that broke the camels.. and that you may have let it build up for too long... but its all just been catching up.. it is all a bit much for you right now... and enough is enough.
BUT WAIT a second... Think back.. Were we ever taught how to communicate our emotions in a way to get heard, understood, listened to.
When were we ever taught to communicate our anger, frustration, disappointment at our increasing weight and vanishing esteem in a way we felt heard, understood NOT loaded with more work, guilt, hurt, deeper pain in a world where only 1 in 100 women believe they are beautiful?
More women it appears are surprised to learn they are angry. The article cited that the number of women being prosecuted for domestic violence has risen by 10 percent in the past 10 year. It also suggested that it was due to the increasing amount of pressure that was piled onto them today.
Are women overextended? Well perhaps more to the point are you feeling overextended.. to the point you are so busy you don't even have the time to check in on yourself... which can be a big cause of pent-up anger and frustration.. and before you know it the slightest thing sets you off... and you let fly this outburst... that is inappropriate... and catches your child or your partner completely by surprise... that makes you feel even worse because it is not seen as feminine but as something men do.
Some blame it on the increase in violence on TV... which is possible.. however there are effective ways to communicate that you are upset.. and that you understand this is the straw that broke the camels.. and that you may have let it build up for too long... but its all just been catching up.. it is all a bit much for you right now... and enough is enough.
BUT WAIT a second... Think back.. Were we ever taught how to communicate our emotions in a way to get heard, understood, listened to.
When were we ever taught to communicate our anger, frustration, disappointment at our increasing weight and vanishing esteem in a way we felt heard, understood NOT loaded with more work, guilt, hurt, deeper pain in a world where only 1 in 100 women believe they are beautiful?
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